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Sermon 15

 

Sermon by Jeff Wattley in 2005

At Wonersh Church

1 John Series

The Love of God; Perfect Love

 

Readings    1 John 4 v 7 - 21  and    Matthew 5 v 43 – 48

 

When I was little my dad had a grand looking old car that was actually pretty useless.  It was an Armstrong Siddley and I think it was about 25 years old.  It was so rusty that water used to shoot up through the floor when we went through puddles, and its engine was really old and unreliable so Dad tried to avoid going up hills.  But it looked quite grand with running boards along the side and brown leather seats.  Dad used to tell people it was a Rolls.  Really! they would say looking un-convinced.  Yes! he would say:  it’s a “Rolls Canardley” :  It rolls down the hills and can ‘ardly get up the other side!

 

I want to think this morning about the kind of love that goes uphill:  Love for those we really don’t like: love for the people who plainly don’t like us; love for those who have hurt us, or betrayed us or who have treated us badly. This kind of uphill love is what the Bible calls Agape love.  This is the subject that John returns to in the second part of 1 John Chapter 4.  Please turn to page 1225/6?.

 

There aren’t many pop songs about this kind of love.   This is a different kind of love from the sort that is usually celebrated in romantic novels and Hollywood films.  There the talk is of falling in love: a love that rolls down hills driven by affection, attraction and a whole cocktail of emotion and hormones.  That kind of love can run away with itself and it can feel unstoppable. It Rolls downhill and sometimes spins right out of control because it has a momentum of its own.  As the old Elvis song said:  I can’t help falling in love with you. 

 

The Greek word Agape (love) which John uses throughout 1 John seems to have been virtually a Christian invention -- a new word for a new thing. Agape is not a form of natural affection but a supernatural fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22). It is a matter of will rather than feeling (for Christians must love even those they dislike).  It is the basic element in Christ-likeness.

 

So for all of us here who can think of someone: especially someone who is part of the Christian Family who we find it hard or impossible to love, let’s explore this idea of Agape love in a bit more depth.

 

This kind of love always starts with God.  In verse 7 John tells us that agape love comes from God and in verse 8 he tells us that God is Love (God is Agape).  This is the second time John has described the very essence of God.  In Chapter 1 verse 5 he said God is light and now he says God is Love.  But this is not the easy kind of love you simply fall into.  God’s love is a love that is costly, deliberate and which overcomes all kinds of obstacles and resistance.  It is self giving and sacrificial. Most of all it is undeserved.  It is the love that climbs hills.  For the object of God’s love is sinful men and women.  This is how God showed his love among us (v9): He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through Him.  This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.

 

The thing we need to grasp afresh is that God’s love for us was totally unearned, and unmerited, and undeserved.  It was while we were still sinners: and therefore enemies of God that Christ died for us.  God knows all about loving the people who are hardest to love: those who betrayed him, those who wounded him, those who opposed him and even those who crucified him.  Agape love has the power to overcome all those things.  Agape love runs uphill.

 

And then John makes an amazing connection.  He says in verse 13, Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.  This is not simply an exhortation to try our best to mirror Christ’s example wherever we can.  It is an obligation (we ought) to be a channel of God’s love.  The love, and the power to drive it comes from God himself.  But we need to become the channel along which it can flow.  In verse 12 John uses this astonishing phrase when he says, If we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

 

Made complete: perfected: delivered to its final recipient by you and by me.  It is like the completing of a jigsaw.  We cannot see the whole picture until we allow God’s agape love to flow through us to power us up the hills and love those who we could not love in our own strength.  Only then the jigsaw is complete.  In this sense, God’s love which originates in God and was revealed in his Son is made complete when his children love one another especially when it is hard.  And do you know God sometimes gives people we find it hard to love just so that we can learn about the power of his grace among us.

There are three ways in which this truth can and should impact the lives of individual Christians and the Christian Churches to which they belong.  We have been given a Rolls Royce standard of love by God and that standard should be reflected in our lives and our Church.  It is possible because God also supplies the fuel to take that love up the hardest and steepest paths.

 

First, God’s Agape love for us can transform the way we look at ourselves.  Instead of being absorbed with what others think of us and achievements we discover what value God attaches to us.  He sent his one and only Son to die for us.  That is the only opinion that matters: in God’s opinion you are priceless.  Knowing that is the foundation for the way we relate to others.

 

Second, because of God’s Agape love for us we can become a channel of his love to others.  We stop focussing on our own needs and reputation to focus on the needs of others.  Jesus set us the ultimate example when he took a towel and washed the feet of his own disciples, including Judas, knowing that he would soon be betrayed by him.  As Christians who have received God’s Rolls Royce love it is our duty and our joy to pass it on at every opportunity.

 

We love because he first loved us.

 

Finally, we come back to the knotty problem of the people we find it hardest to love:  those who have hurt us or betrayed us or who know how to make us feel weak or afraid.  They may not be enemies in any conventional sense of the word, but we know that our hearts are at enmity with them:  the very mention of their name provokes a reaction within us: 

 

John is uncompromising.  If anyone says, I love God and yet hates his brother he is a liar.   Whoever loves God must also love his brother.

 

Remember God’s purpose for his children is not that they should live a comfortable and successful life on earth.  God’s purpose is that we should develop the Character of Christ, and the Character of Christ is summed up in the fact that he willingly went through the agony of the Cross out of love for sinful men and women.  We need to learn to show the same kind of love (agape love) and so God allows us to face challenges including the challenge to love some difficult people who we encounter in our lives.

 

I don’t know who is your uphill person:  A mother in law who is unreasonable: a teenager who is rude and non-communicative; a fellow church member who criticises your best effort, a parent who never says anything encouraging; the relative with the drink problem, the boss who takes advantage of you, you can fill in the blank and you may want to remember a name quietly before God.

 

God wants to complete the journey of his love to them through you.  It does not matter if they are not attractive; if you are not drawn to them, if they don’t appreciate your efforts or even if they coldly reject you because the love of God has a power of its own and it can drive up hill. It goes on working after you have delivered it.  The same power that raised Jesus from the dead is available in Christ to love the unlovable people in our lives.  It is the love that can love our enemies and pray for those who persecute you.  It is the love that cried out ‘Father forgive them for they know not what they do.’

 

Finally don’t be afraid.  Take the next step in faith and God will get to work.  Don’t be afraid of the other person.  As you step out with God’s love your own fears will begin to fade.  You are not going on your own.  Remember it is God’s love you are passing on and God’s love is sufficient. It has no difficulty climbing the steepest hills.  His love won’t run out of steam.  And if needs be He can handle rejection.  Jesus has already absorbed the pain when he died on the Cross.  Perfect love casts out fear.

 

Perfect love is God’s love flowing through us.  Perfect love does not require us to be perfect: only available.  Perfect love is love completed when we allow ourselves to be part of the picture God wants to paint.  Perfect love drives away our fears of other people and ourselves.  Perfect love is God’s plan for the Church.

 

Are you going to say yes to God and take the initiative?  I hope so.

 

Let us pray

 

Lord you know the names that come to mind when we think about loving the people we find hardest to love.  Soften our hearts and give us courage to complete your love by loving them. Amen

 

 

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